https://cancermatch.com/members/dweaver3790/activity/ Activity feed for DWeaver3790. Fri, 08 May 2026 02:06:00 -0400 https://buddypress.org/?v=2.21.0 en-US 30 hourly 2 384b26bc9c428d9281e564f4006130a1 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/10335/#acomment-16902 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 23:23:45 -0500 No worries at all – life as we know it always gets in the way. I had a great Thanksgiving with my family and my husband and I are going strong. So glad to hear about you and Lynn – she sounds like a fabulous lady. Hope you are feeling well and very glad to hear from you.

In reply to - Mark Solowitz posted an update in the group Dating After Cancer I was just thinking about what positive things come out cancer. Well I think we tend to become more empathetic toward people. Things we saw as […] ]]> ad9e67445eace29800cc717499e6f51f https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/10335/#acomment-15000 Sat, 17 Nov 2018 00:02:15 -0500 You make an awesome couple! Again folks, a great guy!

In reply to - Mark Solowitz posted an update in the group Dating After Cancer I was just thinking about what positive things come out cancer. Well I think we tend to become more empathetic toward people. Things we saw as […] ]]> 2a7658119f8135d88aa754ec1409a3f6 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/10335/#acomment-14308 Sat, 10 Nov 2018 21:12:48 -0500 Mark, you are a wise soul. I’ve said it before and I say it again here. Folks, this is a good guy.

In reply to - Mark Solowitz posted an update in the group Dating After Cancer I was just thinking about what positive things come out cancer. Well I think we tend to become more empathetic toward people. Things we saw as […] ]]> 897f536ec056fc9ff3bf147bfeae4076 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/13421/#acomment-14306 Sat, 10 Nov 2018 21:09:45 -0500 I can’t believe there are actually people who would prey on cancer survivors. Oh wait, yes I can believe it. And yes, let’s all be careful and try to find and connect with real people…

In reply to - Sändra posted an update in the group Dating After Cancer Be careful on here people. I have a verified that at least one person who has contacted me on here is a con, trying to prey on the weak. ]]> 70037d0044400e1572f729425431788a https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/13826/ Mon, 05 Nov 2018 21:10:05 -0500 0 5ddf6d86788be4a9ba6a125b1bcb0af3 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/12739/ Mon, 08 Oct 2018 17:53:29 -0400 0 8c6ec07f25bae0e57f4e8ca6817c7d7e https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/12503/ Thu, 04 Oct 2018 00:37:41 -0400 0 81a060af5e155f6c5237c85fe2010cef https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/12453/ Tue, 02 Oct 2018 23:04:48 -0400 0 0a572946b66e454c3ef85c78d2053716 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/6799/#acomment-11546 Tue, 11 Sep 2018 23:31:57 -0400 But to me, that’s not the definition of a friend. I think, in this age of social media, we’re gotten the true definition of a friend all bollocks up. A friend is there for you in good and bad; that’s why a good one is rare and the people who aren’t there in the bad times aren’t really friends. They are….hmmm. And yes, all of us become… Read more

In reply to - Randi posted an update in the group Dating & Cancer in a digital age How do you deal with someone who, as soon as they get the information that you have an incurable cancer, they high-tail it like their rear […] ]]> 3f1be4da5395c3b67dc8c7c4944ff4f6 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/11105/ Wed, 29 Aug 2018 14:09:59 -0400 0 e0bfb3a359443f2a19445e2c8f957fc4 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/10798/ Tue, 21 Aug 2018 06:33:37 -0400 0 84f5721cb8c6379b5f7c8641bb1fb6f3 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/10570/ Thu, 16 Aug 2018 18:17:58 -0400 0 47b0e29bd8dcf97f1a6e66d9723f7709 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/10216/ Mon, 13 Aug 2018 00:07:47 -0400 Wow! There are 100 people in here and that is awesome! To maybe help spur some connections, if only for geography, maybe we can go around and say where we’re from? I am from Pennsylvania, it would be nice to connect with some people nearby (New York, New Jersey, Delaware?) Anybody out there?

]]> 2 e216c04930a3343822fee98020176e7e https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/9905/#acomment-10215 Mon, 13 Aug 2018 00:03:52 -0400 Hi Mark – wow! Really well put, it sounds like you have done a lot of thinking about this issue and I agree with you wholeheartedly. I am so happy to hear that you’re dating some nice ladies and more importantly, that you’ve got some great friends that you love and that I’m sure love you back. You’ve really got your *stuff* together. Good… Read more

In reply to - Mark Solowitz posted an update in the group Dating After Cancer I date different women, they all know I have cancer. I think guys that only date women that are picture perfect are missing out on wonderful […] ]]> 7244ee84de3bb672890f7e64dd509fda https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/9001/ Tue, 17 Jul 2018 19:24:13 -0400 0 ac75b62df22824640f820ba389958699 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/8001/#acomment-8811 Thu, 12 Jul 2018 00:23:37 -0400 Becky, that is an amazing story – you go girl!

In reply to - becky posted an update in the group Dating After Cancer Dating after Breast Cancer. Hummmmm let’s see. I am interested but more I interested in getting better. I think with all a person lives thru makes them a […] ]]> 3f245facd35fa43d375228473b37c838 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/8336/#acomment-8810 Thu, 12 Jul 2018 00:22:53 -0400 I get that. But if you didn’t have cancer, don’t you run the same risk of getting hurt, for some other reason? Everyone you date is the wrong person, until you find the right one. I hear you, it sucks to keep trying. But giving up seems sadder. Don’t give up on yourself.

In reply to - James posted an update in the group Dating After Cancer Not sure how to answer that question. I tried dating someone. We got along really well when we were together. Cancer treatments left me impotent. I do […] ]]> c4d0ac4922d2dd4b65aa32936d8ac6f7 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/6799/#acomment-8717 Tue, 10 Jul 2018 21:30:26 -0400 I think we all get wrapped up in our own stuff and can’t see the impact on others. Sigh, just wish more people got it

In reply to - Randi posted an update in the group Dating & Cancer in a digital age How do you deal with someone who, as soon as they get the information that you have an incurable cancer, they high-tail it like their rear […] ]]> 3fce86e9d71a5dd791bf4c73bac08d2e https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/8329/ Mon, 02 Jul 2018 01:14:13 -0400 0 bc902d33b90bff6e5bb51fce6f79d90f https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/8183/ Fri, 29 Jun 2018 19:00:58 -0400 0 ef0d9b54ee86328d3507444bf3b324a5 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/6799/#acomment-7799 Thu, 21 Jun 2018 00:42:47 -0400 You don’t. Let them go and hold the door open to have them get out of your life faster. Seriously, that’s not a person you want. And do they realize that if it happened to them, how unkind that might be?

In reply to - Randi posted an update in the group Dating & Cancer in a digital age How do you deal with someone who, as soon as they get the information that you have an incurable cancer, they high-tail it like their rear […] ]]> 327fdf12ff9ddc15d81a656ab9fd500b https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/7790/#acomment-7791 Wed, 20 Jun 2018 22:57:09 -0400 8 pm #LBBCchat

In reply to - DWeaver3790 posted an update in the group Dating After Cancer If anyone is interested there is a twitter chat tonight put on by LBBC – Living Beyond Breast Cancer ]]> 2c34f987ccc912b74532519720fed1f2 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/7790/ Wed, 20 Jun 2018 22:56:22 -0400 If anyone is interested there is a twitter chat tonight put on by LBBC – Living Beyond Breast Cancer

]]> 1 67dcce7db3bda03d0f3c5b25ec9c3d14 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/7659/#acomment-7789 Wed, 20 Jun 2018 22:52:18 -0400 That’s a great point Dawn, couldn’t have said it better.

In reply to - cleareyes62a posted an update in the group Dating After Cancer anyone here have someone and let them go because you didn’t want them to waste their time on you when you know the road ahead is going to be […] ]]> f0f8522b0ec76c94e0a600d3b73f4639 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/7221/#acomment-7691 Tue, 19 Jun 2018 22:22:46 -0400 I think it kind of depends on where you are in the process (treatment or post). While my sex drive isn’t quite what it used to be, it’s definitely back but I know sex will be different, because my body is different and I am different. And I know I need a partner who is receptive to that and to me. I still feel that I’ve got a lot to give.

In reply to - Katie Kerlahaus posted an update in the group Dating After Cancer Guys I wanted to ask if cancer reduces sexual urge. Because have not been horny like I used to 😔😔 ]]> e65bb819d6baa79d937c79c507a8610d https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/7659/#acomment-7690 Tue, 19 Jun 2018 22:20:26 -0400 But how do you KNOW it will not end well? At some point, we’re all going to die, but none of knows exactly when or how. There’s no guarantees in life so isn’t it worth going for it for the chance you’ll have some happiness for who knows how long? No risk, no reward. And who’s to say THEY don’t have issues they don’t even know about?

In reply to - cleareyes62a posted an update in the group Dating After Cancer anyone here have someone and let them go because you didn’t want them to waste their time on you when you know the road ahead is going to be […] ]]> 067d0a4be42226e69b0da923dc0789eb https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/7441/#acomment-7689 Tue, 19 Jun 2018 22:16:43 -0400 HI Toni – I hear what you’re saying, but isn’t that true of any really bad thing in life? Don’t we deserve (as everyone does) to have a partner who is strong and can weather whatever comes in life and not run away? Maybe it’s wrong to characterize them as ‘bad people’, I agree. But we’ve all been strong (or are trying to be) – and can… Read more

In reply to - Toni posted an update in the group Dating After Cancer Been reading and truly think that anyone who would walk away from dating someone with a cancer dg is not necessarily a bad person. You hear cancer and […] ]]> 997dff4425b80bf79c06f13cebbf4569 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/7017/ Sun, 03 Jun 2018 17:55:54 -0400 0 3989941e7471b91b76f9f3695c424ad0 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/6812/ Thu, 17 May 2018 22:57:36 -0400 Hi everyone! Anyone from PA in here?

]]> 0 3765dd3a142aaf227aba2a708d19c9b6 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/6811/ Thu, 17 May 2018 22:57:18 -0400 0 09bbb408224f70c285cbebe97205ce7e https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/6622/ Fri, 11 May 2018 04:36:00 -0400 0 2c531ef9546189254f0b3a455e9da4cf https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/6360/#acomment-6611 Fri, 11 May 2018 01:30:49 -0400 Hmmm…well first you know that anyone who rejects you because you are a cancer survivor is no one you want anyway (or that anyone else, cancer or no cancer, should want as well). I wonder if something else happened in the interim that was not cancer related – like maybe another guy (sorry). If that is the case, then she’s not terrible… Read more

In reply to - Eric posted an update in the group Dating After Cancer Hey everyone, how’s it going? I wanted to run something by ya, see what ya think…I have my eye on a woman in my circle of friends. She and I are friends, […] ]]> 8a47fc53c474fb8b938543af9af9bd8d https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/6360/#acomment-6478 Sat, 05 May 2018 12:27:18 -0400 So about your reply to the moving to Austin comment – I think your response was right on. I think if you had told her then, she would have been very surprised because my guess is that she was not expecting that, but more the answer you gave. Maybe the approach to take is, ‘hey, you asked me if I was a cancer survivor, and I wasn’t ready to… Read more

In reply to - Eric posted an update in the group Dating After Cancer Hey everyone, how’s it going? I wanted to run something by ya, see what ya think…I have my eye on a woman in my circle of friends. She and I are friends, […] ]]> d2720466fe39baa2b7f76c316e0982f1 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/6360/#acomment-6461 Sat, 05 May 2018 00:30:28 -0400 Well, maybe she is trying to let you know that it IS ok to tell her and she’s ok with you being a survivor. Maybe she thought it would be easier for her to say something than to make you do it? But why do you think she was digging – I didn’t read it that way. But…I don’t like that she asked why you didn’t tell her. Some people keep… Read more

In reply to - Eric posted an update in the group Dating After Cancer Hey everyone, how’s it going? I wanted to run something by ya, see what ya think…I have my eye on a woman in my circle of friends. She and I are friends, […] ]]> 74768c3af693d2abd4f82b064cd6ab12 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/6206/ Sun, 29 Apr 2018 03:40:48 -0400 0 d59b509b5c313b3d7f5eda42503f79ea https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/6085/ Wed, 25 Apr 2018 23:04:18 -0400 0 21d70cabd056bbe8d4e880580f280610 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/6083/ Wed, 25 Apr 2018 22:07:20 -0400 This is a message directed towards the ladies in the group (but good to know for us all!) – I listened to a webinar put on by Living Beyond Breast Cancer that was on sex and intimacy – it was very good. Speakers were a sexuality counselor and two women who faced issues related to breast cancer and sexuality. The webinar will be available… Read more

]]> 0 80d9dc82b0596e4d3932636bc775c951 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/5944/ Sun, 22 Apr 2018 16:14:39 -0400 0 1ad48651073158a13cdf13bc8de085ec https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/5726/#acomment-5940 Sun, 22 Apr 2018 15:20:19 -0400 Totally agree with you that honesty is important if the relationship is going anywhere. And really, doesn’t everyone have baggage that they bring with them into the next relationship, it’s just a matter of how they deal with it? I think we get scared sometimes that it will be offputting to a new person, but they might have something that’s… Read more

In reply to - Warren posted an update in the group Dating After Cancer Weaver, Well, I think if the date is going well, make a second date. At the second day I would tell your date. Honesty is important if the relationship […] ]]> 8fe3921d604eb44f685a414ae9f96b37 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/5187/#acomment-5771 Wed, 18 Apr 2018 22:44:09 -0400 And here’s another thing – cancer forces us to confront our reality and move forward with treatment. I keep meeting people who are stuck – stuck in a bad job, stuck in a bad relationship – who refuse to move forward, refuse to confront their situations because it’s too hard, it’s too painful, it’s too whatever. So kudos to all of us! We… Read more

In reply to - DWeaver3790 posted an update in the group Dating After Cancer So the forum asks me ‘what’s new in Dating After Cancer’? Sometimes not so much! It’s such a tightrope to walk – when do you tell a new […] ]]> a35001da40ffadd5792152c20d4fa21a https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/5569/ Sat, 14 Apr 2018 23:07:46 -0400 New topic – what’s the greatest obstacle in trying to date after cancer? Is it telling a potential date that you’re a survivor (and the consequences of that), figuring out the best place to meet someone new, or just working up the courage to figure out HOW to date post cancer?

]]> 0 5e703d6218ba6394faab9bfe1adf51a7 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/5500/ Fri, 13 Apr 2018 18:18:51 -0400 0 d5cd8de41ea0548dfbc681562d4ed057 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/5457/#acomment-5483 Fri, 13 Apr 2018 01:36:11 -0400 Q, I agree – there’s not a lot out there for cancer survivors who are single and seeking a new relationship. I get it – those of us in that boat are fewer than mostly older, mostly coupled cancer survivors, but just like younger cancer survivors, we are a population too! There is a webinar on April 25th being presented by lbbc.org (Living… Read more

In reply to - Q posted an update in the group Dating & Cancer in a digital age Disclosure, apps, insecurities, hopefulness, reality checks & appreciation of oneself as you are in this moment. I haven’t started dating by […] ]]> d0c7c9f0b0e5a8adc5180ff5a4ba17f2 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/5054/#acomment-5480 Fri, 13 Apr 2018 01:31:09 -0400 Kathy, remember all that you have gone through and that you are a very strong person for having survived all of this. Yes, it will be hard but your kids are worth it – and they will see how strong you are to do it.

In reply to - Eric posted an update in the group Dating After Cancer The great mystery is, how come relationships + cancer = issues?? ]]> 419fa382eb07ea46f0bb840a564aef35 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/5187/#acomment-5479 Fri, 13 Apr 2018 01:28:48 -0400 I agree with that – we are so much more than a disease! And it does put it right up front that you are a survivor. I am not sure if I would put it in a profile though, but that’s just me. I have yet to sign up for a dating website, but that’s next for me…

In reply to - DWeaver3790 posted an update in the group Dating After Cancer So the forum asks me ‘what’s new in Dating After Cancer’? Sometimes not so much! It’s such a tightrope to walk – when do you tell a new […] ]]> 0d3db9da1eced8c17d72060363ba8c21 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/4712/#acomment-5472 Thu, 12 Apr 2018 22:20:20 -0400 Yes! I think cancer (ironically?) has made me more optimistic, more daring, more don’t give a shit about what people think or what they do, so yup, somewhere, somehow the right person is out there….

In reply to - K.D. posted an update in the group Dating After Cancer There are 23 ppl in this group. Who is actively dating, and can you offer advice/share your experience in revealing your cancer situation while […] ]]> e50f1b13e1f98dae18611802509e7ccb https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/5382/ Thu, 12 Apr 2018 01:25:27 -0400 0 9e6197ccd62bf39a5d7666f1cb4cc8d7 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/4712/#acomment-5380 Thu, 12 Apr 2018 01:23:51 -0400 Well, ironically right after I posted this – I got dumped – via text! Well, maybe I should be happy I didn’t get ghosted lol. Wasn’t a cancer issue, just a I can’t give you what you want, you can’t give me what I want (which is true). So I will take this as getting rid of the wrong person in my life to open up a new opportunity to have… Read more

In reply to - K.D. posted an update in the group Dating After Cancer There are 23 ppl in this group. Who is actively dating, and can you offer advice/share your experience in revealing your cancer situation while […] ]]> 47701e2b5737895b78b920985e1adc7c https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/4492/#acomment-5305 Tue, 10 Apr 2018 22:35:52 -0400 Charley, that’s totally not silly – I think we’ve all had those thoughts, that who wants me now post cancer? But we all are stronger, better people – hell, we’re battling CANCER!! I think lots of people don’t know what to say or how to act and that may cause them to shy away, but I think that just means they’re wrong people. You look… Read more

In reply to - Charley posted an update in the group Dating After Cancer Finding it hard to date…lost a lot of confidence …plenty of interest but don’t feel confident with my body..scared of rejection …sounds silly but […] ]]> 647e6465a1cf86e22683ac32fd411841 https://cancermatch.com/activity/p/5303/ Tue, 10 Apr 2018 22:30:40 -0400 I’m grateful to this site and being able to create this forum because this is a topic that I never seem to see covered anywhere. I guess since older, mostly married people get cancer, there’s less discussion – or the need for discussion? I’ve seen some information on sexual side effects but not so much on how to carry on as a person looking… Read more

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